On Love, Sex, and Dating (feat. Harris O’Malley, aka Dr. NerdLove)
There are all manner of misconceptions and potentially harmful myths surrounding what women want, what men want, and about how best to navigate romantic relationships, from flirting to dating to long-term relationships. On this episode, I speak with special guest Harris O’Malley, aka Doctor NerdLove, to dive into these issues and set the record straight on the complications and nuances of love, sex, and dating in the 21st century.
We talk about toxic masculinity and how to break away from it, why many men today are afraid of forming emotional bonds with other men. We discuss the myths of the “friend zone” and “dating leagues” and positive ways to navigate the issue of attraction to someone you’re just friends with. What is the difference between harassment and flirting? How does one go about reading and recognizing signs of romantic interest on the part of others? What special challenges are posed by long-distance dating in the age of social media? Is there a distinct moment at which two people are officially in a romantic relationship, or can it be largely unspoken? These questions and more are covered in this illuminating discussion.
Harris O’Malley, aka Doctor NerdLove, is an internationally recognized blogger, YouTuber, and dating coach, author of New Game+: The Geek’s Guide to Love, Sex, & Dating and the newly released book I Got Her Number. Now What? A Geek’s Guide to Texting.
Doctor NerdLove website: http://www.doctornerdlove.com/
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Hey everyone, Nathan Dickey here. On this episode, I’m bringing you a great interview I did with internationally recognized dating coach and author Harris O’Malley, aka Doctor NerdLove, in which we discuss and break down common modern myths and misconceptions about love, sex, and dating. But first I have a brief shout-out to give for two really cool people I know, named Yvette (some of you out there may also know her as the SciBabe) and Alice. They are starting a brand-new podcast that I’m really excited to start following, and which I think might be of interest to you as well. It’s called Two Girls, One Mic: The Porncast. It’s a unique idea and something that I think will fill a niche that’s been missing. I’ll let Yvette and Alice explain why in this promo clip they recorded:
So check out Two Girls, One Mic if you are so inclined. Because how awesome is it that two wickedly smart people are talking about both critical thinking and porn together. And now, on to the interview.
In this episode, we are doubting the historical existence of a man you may have heard about: Jesus of Nazareth. Ever since critical biblical scholarship began in the eighteenth century, largely a product of the Enlightenment, the consensus among mainstream historians and religious scholars has been that a man named Jesus did historically exist in Palestine and was crucified by the Romans in the first decades of the Common Era. Although these biblical critics did doubt and challenge the reality of the New Testament’s portrait of Jesus as a miracle worker and divinely appointed savior, they did think – or, more precisely, assume – that there was a real man named Jesus upon whom theological legends were later based. But there has always been another school of thought. The mythicists argued that not only was the Christ of faith a theological fantasy, but the Jesus of history was also a fiction. Jesus, said the mythicist scholars, never even existed historically.
Eastern mysticism clashes with rural America in this episode, as we recount a tale of religious bigotry, government paranoia, bombings, wiretapping, poisonings, assassination attempts, and airplane chases. I am joined by my good friend and patron the show Chris Watson, host of The Podunk Polymath Podcast, to review and discuss the six-part Netflix documentary series Wild Wild Country. The series chronicles the rise and fall of Rajneeshpuram, the once-thriving city established in 1981 in central Oregon by the Indian guru and mystic Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh and his followers.
In this episode, we explore the topic of fantasy role-playing games (RPGs) within the context of the moral panic and cultural stigmatization that surrounded games like Dungeons & Dragons and Vampire: The Masquerade during the Satanic Panic of the 1980s and 1990s. My special guest is Joseph Laycock, PhD, assistant professor of religious studies at Texas State University and the author of three books, including Dangerous Games: What the Moral Panic over Role-Playing Games Says about Play, Religion, and Imagined Worlds. He has also written a book about vampire mythology and the communities that form around them and several journal articles on subjects which include Otherkin, parody religions, and paranormal beliefs.
My guest for this episode is Carly Gelsinger, author, writing teacher, and freelance editor. She holds a bachelor’s in psychology from William Jessup University and a master’s in journalism from Boston University. Her work has appeared in local, regional, and national publications. Her first book, which was released this month, is called Once You Go In: A Memoir of Radical Faith, a book about her life inside a fundamentalist Pentecostal church, where she was on fire for the Lord, as they say, until she found the courage to leave and forge her own path free of the toxicity and fear that fundamentalist religion so often breeds.
In this episode, there is plenty for us to doubt, because we’re talking about philosophy of mind with some moral and ethical philosophy thrown in like sprinkles on top. In what may well become a recurring theme on this podcast, we’re doing another philosophical deep-dive into a television series. This week, we’re analyzing HBO’s Westworld, a cerebral, high-concept series which explores the emergence of artificial consciousness in a theme park modeled after the American Old West and populated by highly sophisticated robots that look and act just like humans from that era.